Get acquainted with some sexual dialects (IV)

We also have cases where some men do not have an ejaculation until several seconds after orgasm. Some men are incapable of ejaculating but are capable of having orgasm.

Some men may experience several ejaculations and go on to have further orgasms. Some men describe feeling the orgasm exclusively in the scrotum and the genital area. Other men report their orgasm as a sensation that spreads to some parts of the body. Other men state that their orgasms are felt throughout their bodies.

Although similar in some ways, there are differences between the male and female orgasm. The female orgasm has the effect of sucking sperm towards the egg (the ovum) in the fallopian tube. Women can often experience an orgasm for a longer period of time than a man. In general, women are more capable of rapidly returning to orgasm following an initial one. It is saddening when women complain that they do not experience orgasm. There are countless types of orgasm a woman can experience such as the clitoral orgasm.

 This is the most common and is the result of clitoral stimulation. Intensely pleasurable feelings start within the clitoris and sends waves of pleasure throughout the body. The clitoris is the most sensitive area on the female body because it is rich with nerves. If you are a guy, imagine all the nerve endings in the penis pour into one small area about the size of a pea. The clitoris is so important to receiving pleasure as sexual arousal is always felt there. That is why the clitoris is so responsive to certain and every kind of touch. However, it’s not the same for every woman as its sensitivity varies greatly from woman to woman. Some women may prefer a light touch while others may require much stronger and firmer stimulation. For some women, it’s so sensitive that touching the clitoral glans directly often makes them uncomfortable; they find it unbearable. After an orgasm, the clitoris may become extremely sensitive to the point of being painful. As a good husband and lover, you should know that, and give your wife a few minutes of rest and continue again. This kind of female orgasm can be given orally with the tongue or with the use of fingers. If a wife loves the use of finger, she must also use a good lubricant as it enhances pleasure and helps achieve orgasm faster.

We also have the vaginal orgasm. This kind of female orgasm begins in the vagina and either stays focused in the pelvic and lower stomach areas, or spreads from there. This kind of orgasm takes longer to achieve (it takes a woman on average 20-25 minutes to achieve this kind of orgasm). The rhythmic thrusting by the husband is often the best way to get a wife there. This is where big and fat penis takes a better advantage over small ones. A big penis fills the vagina fully and the deep thrusting it provides goes deeply and satisfactorily explosive. This is what many wives remember months afterwards.

The G-spot orgasm begins in the G-spot (which is located 2-3 inches in the vagina) and may stay there while climaxing or it may powerfully explode through the whole body (I like to call this the leg shaker). During sexual arousal, the tissue surrounding the urethra becomes engorged with blood and the Para-urethral /Skenes glands produce and fill with prostatic fluid. In fact, this process is very similar to male arousal. As a result, the urethral sponge becomes “erect,” and if you touch it, it feels firm. In other words, this is a kind of female hard-on. If a man wants to give his wife this treat, he should remember that there are different ways of stimulating the G-spot. Rhythmic pushing or circular friction movements are the best for achieving this kind of orgasm [if you do not understand please call for the pamphlet, it is self explanatory]. One position that is good for reaching this sexual peak is from the back or fingering. Many wives describe this as a very special, deeply sensual pleasure, which builds until their whole lower stomach and pelvic area explodes. Often, they are carried away for quite some time by the powerful wave of euphoric energy and don’t even realise where they are and what is going on around them (I like to call this one the body shaker).

We also have the squirting orgasm (female ejaculation). This kind of female orgasm is so profound and mysterious and not a lot of women achieve this in their lifetime. Female ejaculation is generally achieved by stimulating the G-spot, which is considered an erotic zone located internally, at the front of the vagina. This area is intimately connected with the urethra. Indeed, pressure on the G-spot area will invariably produce a desire to pee. A woman has to be extremely comfortable with her husband or with herself in order for this to be achieved. This kind of female orgasm builds a very deep bond between the married lovers. This is the most intimate and delightful thing your woman can share with you.

We also have the A–spot orgasm (The anterior fornix orgasm) which is a female orgasm achieved by stimulation of an area deep in the vagina (about 4-5inches) on the front wall. It is the same wall where the G-spot is situated but between the cervix and the bladder. After an orgasm, the A-spot does not become too sensitive, and you can easily continue stimulation, bringing your wife to new heights of pleasure. This is why women are able to achieve multiple orgasms. Actually, many women find the feeling incredibly pleasurable, while some may not.

We also have the deep spot orgasm. This kind of female orgasm is achieved by stimulating the area located almost all the way back in the deepest part of the back wall of the vagina, just before the cervix. This kind of female orgasm can be given with a hand, using “Come hither” motions using both long and short strokes, and you can even use two fingers if you like.

The U-spot orgasm comes from the stimulation of a small area of sensitive erectile tissue located just above and on either side of the urethral opening. It is in the small area between the urethra and the vagina. If this region is gently caressed with the finger, the tongue, or the tip of the penis, there is a powerful erotic response. The husband should stimulate this area the same way he treats the clitoris. Almost every woman can achieve orgasm in this area especially those wives that have undergone female genital mutilation.

We also have the breast orgasm which occurs during a peak of stimulation to the breasts. The nipples connect to nerves in the female genitals and many women feel a direct connection with their clitoris when their nipples are stimulated. Many women feel increased sexual excitement when their nipples are stimulated but not all of them can experience the breast orgasm. This depends very much on how sensitive their nipples are.

We also have the kiss orgasm which can be experienced by women who are very sensitive orally. The mouth plays a big role in the sexual nervous system. The mouth orgasm can take place during any sensual oral activity such as kissing, licking, sucking, or performing oral sex. Many women describe the excitement as beginning in their lips and then spreading from the mouth to the genitals and all over the body.

Questions and Answers

Sex with my husband clumsy

I entered into a contracted marriage which I did not initially enjoy but my husband has a way of making me look forward to sex anytime anywhere and anyhow. He made me develop an insatiable appetite for sex. He is a nice man. But he has made me to look out for sex like the air I breathe. My problem now is that sex with him is so uninteresting, unexciting, dull, and clumsy because he recently developed a strange illness that reduces the tissue of his penis which has become so soft and light. To gain erection has been a big challenge; sometimes he has to wear an artificial penis extender to be able to penetrate and that is like once in three months. I am a young energetic hot-blooded girl with high libido. I hate masturbation. Please, what is the right thing to do under this situation?

Mrs. R. Jeffry

Where there is a will, there is always a way. You are in that marriage to make it work. Try to work around his challenge and make sure both of you are sexually satisfied. For instance, instead of an artificial penis extender, he can use a wear-on dildo on you. With it, you can even use any positions such as woman on top, missionary, doggy style or any rear entry position. He could also use a vibrator on your clitoris and you can still have a form of satisfaction.

Passion no longer there

I love my husband, but after several years together, the passion is just not there anymore. How can I heat things up again?

Mrs. Joan Kennedy

Complacency creates more complacency. It sounds like your fireworks are experiencing a very short fuse. Let us start with some new little sparklers and celebrate your marriage.

The key word is “new,” INVEST in a new account of pleasure-centred desires. You might just become an instantly sexy, passionate woman. Here are seven easy ways to reignite your attraction. Send him sexy text messages. If you cannot think of something seductive to write, try “C U 2nite. Pants optional” or send him your picture he likes most. Wake up and do it. Men’s testosterone peaks between 7 and 8 a.m., so take advantage of this fun fact and have sex with him a few minutes after the alarm goes off so you have a chance to wake up a bit before getting it on. Imagine an afternoon delight. Pretend that you and your husband had the chance for a mid-day sex session. Fantasise about where you would go and what you would do, then share your vision with him. Even if you never get the chance to make it happen, it is fun to talk about your daytime romp, men love to hear such. Have a mini make out session spontaneously kissing your man for 10 seconds.

Dress seductively and take your husband to a restaurant, pay for an executive private room. It sounds silly though, it can be really fun and flirty. Treat him to a good meal and seduce him. Make sure the lingerie you will put on would be such that would turn your body into the sexiest sex goddess he has ever seen.

Lastly, sleep naked if you are a pyjama pants and big T-shirt kind of a woman. Going naked will make you feel a thousand times sexier, which will in turn, get you in the mood.

Don’t understand him anymore

Funmi, I do not understand my husband any longer. After giving birth last year, I tried to do something about my weight and now I am almost a size zero but since I have reduced drastically, my husband has refused to touch me or have sex with me. He comes so late at night and goes to bed instantly. When I asked if anything was the matter, he just kept mute. What am I to do?

Mrs. Ijioma Apollo

Contrary to popular opinion, women’s curves and figure stimulate men’s brain better than drugs. While many wives are focusing on the so-called “size zero,” many controversies are over women with too thin figures, science has found that men’s brains respond to more curvaceous figures than too thin ones.

Study demonstrates that the sight of a curvy woman’s body has an effect on a man’s brain similar to that of taking drugs. Contemplating the ‘ins and outs’ of a woman’s figure stimulates the parts of the brain related to processing sexual arousal.

“Curvy” figure is considered attractive to men because LARGER BREASTS and wider hips with a smaller waist are supposed to indicate the health and fertility of the woman. Therefore, I will suggest you put a little bit of flesh on maybe that would do the trick.